Locking Your Past Away: Moving Out Of An Ex’s House With Minimal Stress

January 16, 2019 5:34 pm
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It’s never a good time. Whether this is the first time it’s happened, or it’s something you’ve experienced before, a breakup, especially when you’re living with someone, is a very difficult thing to manoeuvre. Not only because of the breakdown of the relationship, but you have to navigate the practicalities. So, if you are living with someone you’ve split up with, is there any way you can move out of the property with minimal stress?

Move Quickly

It’s like ripping off a plaster, it’s better to do it quickly. The temptation can be, if you’re on speaking terms, to sleep in the spare room, so you can save money. But in doing this, are you neglecting your pride? It’s far better for you to get out quickly, rather than prolonging the inevitable moment that you have to go. If you were the one rejected, you may take it harder than others, and you may hold onto false hope that something may change if you stay. But you’re hurting yourself by going through this.

The Practicalities Aren’t Difficult

Even if you have an abundance of items, you can put them into storage for the time being, and when it comes to things like bills, sure, it’s a pain in the short-term. But, surely this is an opportunity for you to work overtime, so you don’t actually need to go back to the house much and pay the bills off. The practicalities feel like a pain because there are so many hoops to jump through, but whether it’s a water bill, or going through the rigmarole of finding somewhere new to live, you will have to do it at some point. Doing it now can be a very healthy distraction.

Don’t Be Afraid To Rely On Your Friends

They are there when you need them the most, and you need the right now. Sometimes we can feel that we are a burden, because maybe we’ve gone through issues in the past with them, and this is just the last straw. But, if they are your friends, they will be there for you. Especially at this moment in time, they will give you that opportunity to vent, but also give you that physical and emotional distance from the problem. This can give you the opportunity to work through things in your own sweet time.

Moving On

Whether it’s through selling things online that belonged to the two of you, or finally learning to let the past go, moving on is something that happens when you are ready. Moving on his healthy, and we all know this, that when we are clinging onto the past in the house that’s something may rekindle, this isn’t healthy. And when you are moving out, consider this to be the defining moment- symbolism in action- that you are moving on with your life. You are locking that part of your past behind. And it’s not so you can ignore what happened, but rather use it as a way to learn and move on.

It’s one of the most stressful things in life, and that’s when you aren’t breaking up with someone, but moving out of a shared house can be done with the minimum of stress if you’re ready.

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